Thursday, October 25, 2007

a song

there's this ooold song by Lobo (thanks much for the correction, methodactor!)that goes 'I love you too much to ever start liking you, so lets just let the story kinda end....'

funny thing is I know quite some people who've drifted apart and some of the halves feel exactly this way. love and like are two different things...like can morph into love...but can love morph into like? I guess it depends on the kind of person you are. Me? Not been there yet. but if I could hazard a guess, maybe not or yes, maybe...

Amore involves a more fatal chemical reaction that sort of glosses over the details....going back to 'like', would mean pulling it down a notch, going back to the drawing board and actually staring at the warts and moles and irritating tics...makes sense absolutely.

Love must end, go up in flames, vaporise, crash as love for some, a grand passion, if you will...that cannot be cooled down to a mild like. But there are cases of the other halves that still try to be friends, maintain a like, a bond, a connection, something to keep it alive.

Apart from just a single case of it being a man thing (personally vouched for), its mostly women who feel that strongly...since they plumb the depths and soar the heights on this magic carpet...and once the ride ends, want to see nothing of the carpet or the mess hiding under it.

funny.

6 comments:

ffflaneur said...

how true & how well phrased!!

and yes, love is about a certain connection involving a match of emotional/affective needs. But maybe if you both loved and liked a person, you can afterwards try to ignore the "love-part" that went wrong and stick to the remaining "likes".

Am in the process of trying that out - will keep the general public posted on my findings

Ms BURDEN said...

i am not currently in love... I have temporarily forgotten what love is!

Phoenix said...

ffflaneur - please do share your report! :-) and yes, you can love and like a person, say, if you started out as friends and then moved on to the bigger picture and it all ends in an amiable sort of way. but the couple of cases I've seen have been a bit more dramatic, even with the initial like involved, hence the post.

laila - makes two of us! more of a comfort zone now than the spectacle of lurrve. :-D

methodactor said...

Phoenix: When I read this, it mirrored some of my current issues so close that, well, I read it again and again. And I have the same song in my MP3 player, except its by LOBO. I went through this whole drill when I closed the doors on a very close friend, suddenly turned very distant. There is no such thing as Love "Lite". :-) Thanks for this.

Phoenix said...

methodactor, you are so welcome and thanks much for setting my artiste right...I got Anka and Lobo confused, blame it on the ascending years! it is indeed the latter...and I love all his numbers...simple and so bang-on lyrics...:-)

qsg said...

Interesting...